The emotion known as “FOMO,” or fear of missing out, is prevalent throughout life. It can range from wanting to play tag on the playground with the other kids to feeling left out on a Friday night when friends are hanging out, and no invitation is given. These emotions have a profound impact on individuals, altering how they perceive human interaction and social dynamics throughout their lives. Nevertheless, it is essential to understand FOMO, the effects of this negative mindset, the self-inflicted pain we impose on ourselves, and how to overcome it.

FOMO is rooted in this deep need for acceptance and the desire to be wanted by others. It manifests as a form of insecurity that surfaces when one feels disconnected from a group. It does not just appear when one is intentionally excluded, but in multiple environments, such as conversations with big groups of people, when one makes the decision to stay at home relaxing and not go out, and even in classrooms where established groups are already connected, leaving one feeling isolated. As humans, we all crave attention, not in conceited ways, but often driven by jealousy. However, the biggest contributor to FOMO is social media; the platform highlights the best times of the event, making it seem that one is missing out. In reality, those functions were most likely never designed for them.

Many people experience unnecessary pain and stress, questioning whether they are cool enough to be a part of the “popular” group. This leads to low self-esteem, isolation, and pessimism. Despite these sentiments, everyone can remember a time when they did not include someone, and it often was not due to their feelings towards this person, but the circumstances of the situation. High school students have complex lifestyles; many have jobs, play sports, are involved in extracurricular activities, and practice a balancing act with schoolwork. No one wants to miss out on their youth, but after high school, there are numerous opportunities to pursue and explore as an independent.

When one is outside looking in, and their perspective on others is limited, their mindset can be significantly impacted. Outlook in life is pivotal and controls one’s mental health, and in today’s society, we are encountering a severe “me” epidemic–an entitlement to be considered in every circumstance. This mindset is toxic and detrimental to both ourselves and others. It is important to express gratitude for assets, belongings, and resources. Humanity exemplifies greed, always wanting more, when truthfully satisfied within the conditions that they face.

Ultimately, emotions are actions and feelings that humans can control, reciprocate, and effectively use to further their understanding of others. FOMO is a self-imposed weapon that can only create self-harm. When positive thinking, self-appreciation, and love are at the forefront of individuals’ minds, FOMO cannot conquer mental states.